Updated: May 4, 2020
December 22, 2019
My first semester of grad school was more tumultuous than I could have ever imagined for soooo many different reasons! I deserve a few sangrias after that, for sure! (I’m 21+ don’t judge me! 😂) I was holding on a by a super thin thread multiple times throughout the semester, BUT GOD! I learned a few things while juggling school, my transition to a new city, developing passive income streams, my relationship and etc. and I’d like to share:
Adapt, improvise, overcome. Don’t shoulda/coulda/woulda yourself to death. Learn and adjust. The time you spend dwelling on a mistake is time you could be learning and adjusting.
Love yourself at every state of evolution of you. Don’t just look forward to the finish project because you’re always evolving.
Being able to say “I don’t know, teach me” is a life hack. You don’t have to know it all. Even if someone is condescending, as long as you’re learning, you’re winning.
Anxiety and Depression do not disqualify you from success. Counseling and prayer (if you believe in that) are a fire combo especially when you’re consistent with both!
Closed mouths don’t get fed. No one can help if they don’t know you need it. The worst you could be told is no.
Filter advice accordingly! All advice is, is perspective. Remember which perspectives your advice comes from and make sure it’s coming from a trusted source with a vested interest in your success.
Set boundaries, and set expectations in all relationships: professional, academic, personal. They’re vital.
Don’t take any ownership of labels that you don’t want. Don’t allow people to label you as anything you’re not proud of! You determine who you are and only you.
Feelings are not facts. This could be read in many different ways. But I learned to apply it to imposters syndrome. Just because I FEEL unqualified, doesn’t mean I am.
There’s a bunch more I could share but these are the lessons that rang true in a lot of areas of my life through such a bumpy transitional period.